4. Insecurity is a Guys Best Friend! BEware the Bullshit Book!
You must BElieve in your worth. You must BElieve that you are worthy! To the predator it really does not matter why you are insecure. You could BE the the absolute finest Girl but in your head, you think that you are a pimply faced, 390 pound chick, with no hair and missing a tooth. The predator is going to use that! The predator will use flattery! Why? Cause the ish works! A dude will say anything! He will Lie! He will give constant Oscar Worthy performances that even HE will BElieve cause he's got the scent of the Hunt in his nostrils and he can't stop! He will MAKE ISH UP! He can't help it! It's the power of the Bullshit Book! We all got one! Girls got one too, although I think some of y'all, actually have the Teachers Manuel, but I digress!
It works no matter what kinda of Girl you are. All Girls like to BE told that they are the prettiest, finest thing walking. Take it from me, even if the Girl had her pick of dudes, I always got and kept her ear. An Ugly Girl loves to BE told she's pretty! A Pretty Girl loves to BE told she's the prettiest! I'd play on the pretty girls arrogance and vanity! The Girl needs to feel Sexxxy! If a guy can make a Girl feel sexxxy, then half those buttons are popped right there! Making her feel sexxxy gives her the illusion of empowerment! See, the Girls do all the real work for the Dude.
But what the predator is really looking for is the Insecure Girl. See, the Insecure Girl might BE a Swan, but she used to BE an Ugly Duckling and she needs to be reassured, that she's a SWAN!
Her low self image and low self esteem is my Golden ticket to Wonkaland! It ain't the dude who convinces the Girl that she's too fat, too skinny, too tall, too short, butt too BIG, Butt too small, hair too short, skin too light, skin too dark! It ain't the MEDIA either! It's YOU! It's your own inner dialogue. The predator plays on your OWN INNER DIALOGUE!
You mean The Predator can read our minds Mista Jaycee? !!!!
"Huh, Why, Yes! Yes! We can! We can read your minds and there is no way you can resist our charms! You must give into our advances! YOU MUST!!!!!"
So who's responsible for Your Self-Image and Your Self Esteem? You are of course! You have to BElieve that you are worth him opening the door for. You have to BElieve that you do deserve to BE treated with respect. You have to make him BE a Gentleman. He's got a sex drive and a barometer dangling from his body that tells him to GET IT! I WANT IT NOW! NOW! NOW! Guess what it is????? Come on......It's something that's comfortable tucked between your thighs! Ever wonder why the legs are soooooo strong? Too protect the RING! It's because of the POWAH of the RING! (sorry nerd moment there)
5. BE Clear on what it is and what it ain't!
If you are interested in a Fella, BE clear on your feelings. He asked you to the movies. Cool! Ask, Are you asking me on a Date? Make sure it's a date! There is no kickin it, hangin out or any of that stuff if it's someone who you are interested in.
Ladies, y'all know if you are interested in a Dude and you know in what way you are interested! Yeah, some times, a Fella, may surprise you, and your feelings change but admit it, that's rare! No, if it's a Dude you "interested" in then you got to set the boundaries. If it's a Date, then Date Rules apply! He asks you on a Date! You set a Time! He picks you up! See Dad rules above. And if y'all just "Friends" then be real with that too! HE may not want to BE in the "Friend" Zone. If you ain't interested in the Fella Date wise, and He's got no real chance at any but Friendship then Kickin it is ok as long as you both understand the boundaries. You, young Lady have to set those boundaries! This is to keep you out of trouble. See, y'all will say y'all buddies and then act like your Boyfriend/Girlfriend. Y'all kissing and basically dating in everything but name. Then, when one of y'all starts having real feelings and wants a Commitment, then, it's hey we were just kicking it remember? So keep that boundary straight! Friends is friends! Dating is Dating!
That way neither of y'all will get mixed up!
Remember, the rules you set, will BE the rules he plays! You just accept any kind of treatment and HE won't treat you like a Queen. And until you learn that basic lesson then you will be Doomed to always date the crumb bums on the B and C teams.
The worst thing is that you wake up one day and realized that you've gave the Golden Ticket to Wonkaland to too many unworthy, bad, inconsiderate, azz people and now Wonkaland is totally Eff'd up!